My Baby Cries – From Crying to Radiant Child

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You want to be sure that your baby is not lacking anything and can develop in a healthy and positive way. You long for answers to all the questions and worries spinning through your mind because your baby cries. You wish for calm in this carousel of thoughts, and above all, for your baby to be able to settle and relax.

You may know that moment when your baby cries even though they are completely cared for. Your ears and neck ache, and you no longer know how many laps you have walked through the house while your baby continues to cry inconsolably. You’ve already been to the pediatrician, tried every mom-blog tip, and it tears your heart apart to see your baby like this. The question whether something is wrong with your child keeps tormenting you. You wish you could feel better as a mother and wonder whether you have a “crybaby”, and when this nightmare will end.

Baby crying is often dismissed with phrases like: “it will pass”, “they grow out of it” or “it’s just the first three months”. Many parents hear these sentences. But in reality, no baby cries without a reason.

Babies don’t want to stress or manipulate us, they simply have needs. Advances in infant research and neurology provide us with new insights into early brain development. We now understand the impact of different caregiving strategies on a child’s development. The way a crying baby is accompanied affects the systems and chemicals in the brain. One of the greatest gifts you can give your baby is to support them with as much love, patience, and presence as possible when their still-immature stress system becomes overwhelmed. A crying baby cannot yet regulate physical or emotional turmoil on their own.

But precisely in these moments, your patience may run out – your baby cries, and you end up breaking down in tears yourself, or feelings of anger and frustration arise. Being able to comfort your baby only for brief moments, even when carrying them constantly, can feel deeply exhausting and discouraging.

A crying baby touches us profoundly and triggers overwhelming emotions, which is why you should not be alone with your crying baby.

Tips and Ideas When Your Baby Cries

• Go outside for a walk with your baby, in a wrap, baby carrier, or stroller, whichever works, in any weather, even if your baby is crying.
• Make sure you are not alone with your crying baby. Isolation can cause a dramatic drop in an important mood stabiliser: serotonin.
• Call someone close to you and allow yourself to say things exactly as they are. Meet up if possible. Being around people, even with your crying baby, can already help.
• When was your baby’s last check-up? Do you have confirmation from your paediatrician that development and growth are normal?
• Book an osteopathy or craniosacral therapy appointment. It’s important to rule out that your baby is in pain.
• Organise support in any way you can! No matter what your apartment looks like, whether you’re without makeup or still in your pyjamas – you need someone now. Someone who brings you food or holds your baby so you can take one moment to breathe.

With my extensive experience, I am happy to support you – professionally, non-judgmentally, and with sensitivity. Together we will find a way to understand your baby and ease this heavy situation, creating more joy and closeness for you and your child.